Comment on I was little, I was weak and perfectly naive and I grew up too quick

  1. Cxmill Fri 02 Apr 2021 11:26PM UTC

    I understand and have read your full comment. I understand the use of a slur is disrespectful and of course I’m not trying to excuse the use of slurs they should not be said and should not be used as they are offensive.

    When writing I took into consideration Kaeya’s anger as well as historical context as it’s not set in 2021. Although we don’t have a specific date for the game we do still have the fact that many of the women in Mondstadt wear corsets and with the Kamera only just having come out I’d say that if you want a historical date I’d say late 1800s.

    I’m classified as having a mental disability so words like “retard” “spaz” “slow” have been used on me before. I don’t particularly see any problem with the words being used as long as they’re not being used to moc someone with a mental disability or purposely insult someone with a mental disability. I’m not trying to use this as an excuse cause I know they’re wrong but bc I’m dumb and can’t wrap my head around it cause social cues and the whole “be careful not to insult someone” when you never meant it as an insult and shit don’t make any sense to me. If I’m being honest I don’t get it cause Diluc isn’t (well at least in this fanfic) mentally disabled and Kaeya isn’t using the word in a sense of insult to the mentally disabled community so ig it’s not making sense to me? I’m not trying to be ignorant but I just don’t understand how can be taken with so much offense as it has been when not used in an Inherently purposely rude way? No that probably makes people angrier huh? I suppose my lack of understanding is what makes me hesitant to change the word because from my point of view; the story is set in a historic time period where a. Mental illnesses and disabilities were poorly understood. B. It’s a fanfic C. Kaeya was angry D. I didn’t write it with the purpose of insulting a character with a mental disability bc the r slur is used on a lot more classes of disability than just autism Ugh I’m probably making a bigger deal of this than it has to be but I really don’t get it? If you could explain it to me with more than just “it’s a slur! You’re disrespecting the autistic community!” Would be really helpful. God I probably sound so dodgy. I promise I don’t and never had intended to offend any community I just really didnt think about it too hard as it didn’t really flag up as anything in my mind?? If that makes sense?? Kind Regards, A dumbarse author

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    1. hackrusty Sat 17 Apr 2021 09:20PM UTC

      hey idk if u still are checking this thread but the reason some ppl consider 'retard' to be a slur is bc the of definition. the dictionary one being "delay or hold back in terms of progress, development, or accomplishment. "our progress was retarded by unforeseen difficulties"" (Oxford languages ver.) so calling someone a retard would be saying that they're slow or incapable of doing something the same way others can.
      thats why (of my knowledge) ppl dont like it

      that said, u did tag it. tags are meant to be used as a way to mark whats in the fic so u can see if u want to read it or not, so i dont see the issue here. perhaps the rating "general" is out of place but thats rlly all i can see that could be an issue. ao3 has fics abt rape/noncon, graphic violence and mentally straining topics, using the wrod 'retard' isnt a reason to get upset here??? sensitive language is often used to portray anger and u didnt CONDONE using it so im pretty sure ur in the clear in that sense.

      if u have any issues with what i said just reply and ill try to anser u best i can!!

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    2. z (Guest) Thu 24 Jun 2021 10:17AM UTC

      pls just edit it out this is getting embarrassing... stop trying to justify it

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      1. Cxmill Wed 30 Jun 2021 10:04AM UTC

        Listen, if you don’t like it then don’t read. I have warning in the tags and in the description. If you choose not to heed this warning then any offence or triggered response you may feel is not my fault, the warning is there for a reason.

        Why did I try to defend myself? Because I have a right to. If the criticism was said constructively and less just straight out rude then this may have played out different. Besides, I could have just not replied and deleted those comments but I didn’t, I spent replying because everyone deserves to be listened to.

        I’m not going to change something I wrote a long while ago because people are getting offended. If my work has genuinely brought up any mental anguish then I will delete upon being told as that isn’t my aim.

        I have experienced being called this slur before, I’m not saying my experience with it and therefore response can be generalised but I’m not talking from a position of inexperience or ignorance.

        I get that the slur is rude but I won’t be changing it, that decision is final.

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